Unless you've been living in a cave, you've heard of the hit DVD
movie, The Secret, which I was fortunate enough to have participated
in. The Secret has developed into quite a phenomenon. Many of the
teachers who appeared in it have appeared on Oprah! and Larry King
Live, and several other national television programs. Hundreds of
thousands of people have watched the DVD, and those who have are
hungry for information on how to implement what many people call the
Law of Attraction. This month I want to share my take on The Secret
and the Law of Attraction, and talk about what you can do to put
these principles into action in your own life.
As powerful as The Secret is, there are a few things—a few very
important things—it either leaves out, or de-emphasizes. I want to
discuss these things, because once you understand them you'll have
the maximum ability to use these important principles to take change
of your life. Without them, The Secret won't benefit you at all.
My belief is that there is a way, no matter who you are, and
regardless of your past or present circumstances, to master your
life, to master your mind, and to create anything you want in life.
The Secret describes a part of how to do that. It's a very important
part, but it's still just a part. I want to tell you about the other
parts, and share some of the practical details, the "how-to," of
what I and the other teachers talked about in The Secret, because
there's more to The Secret and the Law of Attraction than just
putting something out to the universe and hoping to get something
back.
As the people who made The Secret have said, it's true that for
thousands of years a certain small segment of the population has
known about and used this secret, and that those who've known it and
have used it have prospered in extraordinary ways, and have
influenced the world in ways that have seemed almost magical to
those who don't understand this secret. But you need to know more
than generalizations about this secret in order to fully implement
it, and I want to share some of that with you.
Before I get into some of the nuts and bolts, I want to tell you
about two aspects of this secret that were not emphasized in The
Secret DVD and book. I'm sharing this with you because these two
additional aspects of The Secret are crucial, and if you leave them
out, The Secret doesn't work.
What you focus on creates your life—but it ain't magic!
Let's start out, then, by acknowledging that it's true that you
create in reality, in one way or another, whatever you focus your
attention on. Your life is going to be an outcome of where you
predominantly place your attention. There are, of course, as I said,
some things you need to know about the how-to of this in order to
get all the benefits, and I'll talk about that in a moment. What is
unfortunate, in my opinion, is that all too often people think that
all you have to do is focus your attention on what you want, and
then, in some magic way, you'll get it.
I will say that the way this law works does seem like magic,
especially when you first use it and see your results suddenly
change from dismal to successful, but there is no magic involved,
and without the second two principles I'm going to share, you'll end
up being nothing but a wishful thinker, wondering how long
this "Secret" stuff is going to take. I know, because I get many
letters from people asking me how long it's going to take, and I
have to truthfully tell them that if all they do is focus their
attention on what they want, it's going to take forever.
So let's look at these other two principles I mentioned, and then
we'll get into some of the nuts and bolts of how to focus your mind
in a way that really works. The first principle you heard a lot
about in The Secret DVD, the fact that what you place your attention
on you tend to create or attract into your life. However, if you
stop there, not much happens. After you place your attention on what
you want to create or manifest, you have to use the second
principle, which is to then take action to get it.
Forget about the Wish Fairy
Yes, I hate to break this to you, but if you want money—or anything
else, for that matter—you can't just wish for it. Whether you want
great relationships, a fulfilling career, good health, or anything
else, in addition to focusing your attention on what you want, you
also have to take action.
And the action you take also has to, in some way, be of value to the
world, and to other people. You could act your ass off, but if your
action has no value for anyone, you won't get anything back. This is
why they call it the Law of Attraction. You get back what you put
out. To get value, you have to give value. That's the way it works.
For some of the people who come to me, or the other teachers you saw
in The Secret, life isn't working so well. I know what that's like,
because I used to be one of them. Such people aren't making much
money, usually. They very often aren't in a fulfilling career. Their
relationships aren't satisfying. They don't feel happy and peaceful.
Their health may not be very good. Many of them feel very lost in
the world. They sometimes feel like, well, like losers in the game
of life.
Often such people don't have the skills that allow them to offer a
lot of value. That doesn't mean that they couldn't develop those
skills, or in some other way figure out how to create value in the
world, but at the present time they either don't have the skills or
don't know how to use them to create benefit for others.
You see, the problem is that such people—and remember, I used to be
one of them, so I understand the thought process—such people would
LOVE to find out that there's a magic way to become prosperous,
popular, respected, happy, and loved. Then, when someone comes along
and tells them to just "put it out to the universe" it almost
becomes a cruel joke, because to create the kind of life I just
described, you have to do more than just think about it or wish for
it.
I want everyone who feels lost and discouraged about creating the
life they want to know that while you can't JUST focus your
attention on what you want, it isn't that difficult to add these
other two principles, and, having added them, you can learn how to
have everything you want in life. It isn't magic, and it isn't
difficult, but there is a price to pay. My career, once I found it,
albeit late in life, is about showing people what that price is, and
then showing them the easy way to pay it.
Here's how it works...
So let's look at the first principle, what most people think of now
as The Secret—the idea that what you place your attention on is
manifested in reality. This is a solid, real, principle, but it
isn't magic. Here's why this principle works—if, of course, you use
the other two principles with it.
When you focus your attention on something you want to create or
attract, several things happen. Your mind is a very powerful goal
seeking mechanism. You just have to give it a goal, and it gets busy
figuring out how to get it. When you focus on something, your mind
takes it as an instruction to figure out how to create or attract
whatever you've focused on. In fact, right now, you're already using
that power. The problem isn't a lack of ability to manifest what you
focus on, but rather a lack of conscious and intentional control
over what you focus on.
In other words, most people focus their mind unconsciously and
unintentionally. Their focus runs on autopilot. Your mind was pre-
set to focus in a certain way during childhood, and now it just runs
on automatic. Depending on what happened while you were growing up,
your mind focuses a certain amount of the time on what you want, and
a certain amount of the time on what you want to avoid. Either way,
though, it attracts or creates it.
Here's how it works. Now remember that this first principle works in
conjunction with the other two—taking action, and making sure the
action is of value to someone. So when you focus on something you
want to create or attract, a number of things happen. First, you get
ideas about what actions you could take. If you want to attract a
glass of lemonade, you think about having it, and your mind
immediately suggests that you to go to the kitchen, if you have some
lemonade there, or take a trip to the supermarket to buy some, if
you don't. Instantly, you get ideas about what action to take in
order to make your idea a reality.
Turning wishes into lemonade
You can probably see that sitting there visualizing lemonade without
doing something about it is a belief in magic, and if that's all you
do you're not going to get lemonade. Even if someone walks into the
room just as you think of lemonade, and you ask them to get you
some, you've still taken action. And, if by some coincidence you
thought of lemonade and right then someone walked into the room and
said, "I was wondering if you'd like some lemonade?" this is not
happening because you thought about lemonade. A lot of magic-
believers would like to think so, but you could sit there every day
and think about lemonade, and it would be a long time before that
method would work again.
Scientists have a name for this. It's called a coincidence. People
who believe in magic turn coincidences into evidence, but that
doesn't make it so, and you can easily prove this to yourself by
thinking of lemonade the next day, and the day after that, and the
day after that, and finding out what happens. What will happen is
that no lemonade will manifest the next day, or the next, or the
next, unless you get up out of your chair and take action to find
some.
How to find all the resources you need
So the first thing that happens when you focus on getting something
is that your mind generates ideas about how to get it, ideas about
what actions you could take to get it. The second thing that happens
is that you begin to notice resources you could use in getting what
you want. You might notice people who could help you that you
weren't noticing before. You might suddenly become aware of
information, books, seminars, TV shows, or whatever, that previously
you had not noticed.
Perhaps you've had the experience of wanting to learn about
something and going to a bookstore. Suddenly you see all kinds books
about the subject that you never noticed before, and would have just
walked right by if you hadn't told your mind to notice them.
Let's say you're driving down the street and you decide you want an
Italian meal. If there are any Italian restaurants on that street,
will you notice them? Of course. Would you have noticed them if you
hadn't focused your attention on Italian food? Probably not.
When you focus your attention on something, your mind develops a
kind of radar that causes resources to wave little red flags at you,
and to almost jump into your arms, or at least into your awareness.
But again, you can see how this relates to taking action, because
these resources you notice are useful only if you use them.
Okay, so far, by focusing on what you want, you've begun to develop
some ideas about how to get it, and you've started noticing
resources you could use. Next, focusing on what you want causes you
to become motivated to act. Because you're thinking about what you
want, and about how you'll feel when you get it—good, probably—you
become motivated to do something, to take action.
You can be a high-quality person
And, finally, focusing on what you want causes you to tap into or
develop certain internal qualities that help you to get it, such
things as courage, or persistence, or focus. Because you're focused
on what you want, and are thinking about the benefits of having what
you want and imagining how good it will feel, you're more likely to
be persistent, to focus your attention, to be disciplined, to be
self reliant, to take personal initiative, to use your imagination,
and to be enthusiastic.
Those who focus on what they want develop all of these personal
qualities, and, depending on what qualities are needed in order to
create what you want, possibly others. And, the more and the longer
you focus on what you want, and the more positive emotion you add,
the more these qualities become part of your personality.
So focusing your mind in the way described in The Secret causes you
to have ideas, to notice people and resources that could help you,
to become motivated to act, and to develop internal qualities that
will help you act to get what you want. You can see, then, how
incredibly valuable focusing your attention on what you want can be.
If you've ever wondered why some people seem to have so many ideas,
how they seem to always find the resources they need or the people
who can help them, how they stay motivated, and how they seem to
have all these amazing personal qualities, now you know. They did it
by continually focusing their attention on what they want and then
taking valuable action.
Ask the Magic Question
Now here's a really easy way to focus your attention on what you
want. I call it the Magic Question, but again, it really isn't
magic. To focus your attention on something you want to create or
attract, ask yourself, "How can I create X?" whatever X is, or "How
can I get X?" Sometimes, if you're in what seems to be a
particularly bad situation, you might say, "Given that I'm in this
situation, what can I do to get X?" For instance, if you just lost
your job and you have a lot of debts, you might ask yourself, "Okay,
given that I'm in this situation, what can I do right now to create
a new job and create enough money to pay all these debts?"
When you ask this type of How Can I? question, it focuses your
attention on what you want, and in doing so you enlist your mind in
finding an answer—in other words, to figure out what you could
actually DO to begin creating or attracting what you want.
Then, as you get ideas, you have to act on them. Sitting there
wishing and hoping for a miracle, or hoping that a coincidence will
slam into you is what NOT to do. Dr. Phil, if he were here, would be
asking such a person, "How's that workin' for ya?" I know a lot of
very successful people, including nearly every teacher who appears
in The Secret, and believe me, none of them sit around waiting for a
miracle to land on them.
Even the few of them who actually, and in my opinion mistakenly,
teach that focusing on what you want is magic, when you watch what
they're actually doing, they are taking action. How they can miss
the fact that they are is beyond me, but a few of them—who shall
remain nameless—do teach people to just "put it out to the universe"
and that no action is necessary. They too, though, take action, but
I guess they somehow fail to see the connection between the action
they take and the results they get.
If you look around at successful, make-it-happen people, you won't
see any of them who don't take action.
It only looks like they're not taking action
Now I'll admit that sometimes the results can look as if they are
coming to a very successful person awfully darned easy and awfully
darned quickly, but these results are still coming from action,
preceded by focusing on what that person wanted.
My friend Gay Hendricks, along with his wife Katie, have been
bestselling authors of books about relationships for over twenty
years. Another friend, Jack Canfield, is also a bestselling author.
Either one of them can pick up the phone, call a book publisher,
tell them an idea for a book, and get a book deal instantly. If some
other person wanted a book deal, it could take them years to make it
happen. If their idea didn't have value, based on what the publisher
wanted, they might never make it happen.
To someone who did not understand the principle of taking action and
the principle of creating value, it might look like Gay or Jack made
something happen as if by magic, without taking action. However, in
this case the book deal happened quickly because of actions they'd
previously taken. In fact, Jack visited scores of publishers with
the original Chicken Soup for the Soul book, and was almost ready to
give up, when he finally found a publisher willing to print his
book. But now, after selling well over 100 million books, he's
already proven that he can create a bestselling book. He's already
taken the action necessary to get a book publisher to send him a
contract and a check. The same goes for Gay Hendricks.
I can create a new course or a new product, and Centerpointe program
participants will buy it tomorrow, in droves. This isn't magic,
though. It's the residual of thousands of actions I've already taken
which have convinced my customers that when I create something, it's
going to be worth it for them to buy it in order to get the
benefits. I've already taken the required action, and sometimes that
makes it look as if little or no action is being taken in order to
get a certain outcome.
Will the Wish Fairy give you a raise?
Let's take this down to a more mundane example. If you work in an
office, and your boss approaches you and offers you a better job in
the company, with more pay, why does he do this? Is it magic? Is it
because you've been sitting in your cubicle putting it out to the
universe that you want a better job with more money? I doubt it. If
your boss offers you such a promotion, I'll bet you anything it's
because of past actions you've taken that have convinced your boss
that you're worth the raise, and because he's pretty sure that your
future actions will make it worth his while to give you new
responsibilities and more money.
Now, let's look at the third principle, the idea that the action you
take has to benefit someone, that your action has to create value.
Think of it this way. From time to time you give money to other
people, right? You pay your electric bill, you pay your car payment,
you give money to the supermarket, you give money to the clothing
store, or the gas station. Why do you do this? Is it just because
you like these people? Is it because they put it out to the universe
that you would stop by and give them money?
Well, you might like them, and they probably did sit down and focus
on how to get you and other customers to give them some of your
money, but when it comes right down to it, you gave them money
because they have something you want more than you want the money.
Like everyone else, unless it's just because you love them, you give
money to others if you get something valuable in return. What's
more, you're the sole judge of whether what they have is valuable.
It doesn't matter who else thinks it's valuable—if you don't think
it is, you don't give up your money for it.
The ONLY reason people will give you money
Other than money you might give to someone just because you love
them, this is the only reason why money changes hands. This means
that if you want money, someone else is going to have to give it to
you, and they're going to use the same criteria you use. If giving
you money gets them something they want more than the money, they'll
give you the money. In order to get more money, then, you have to
figure out a way to create more benefit, more value. This is really
the essence of the Law of Attraction. The amount of money you
attract is equal to the value you provide.
This applies to more than money, of course. As the Beatles said in
one of their songs, "the love you take is equal to the love you
make." I'm only talking in terms of money because that's what most
people think of when they think of The Secret and the Law of
Attraction. But whatever you want—love, respect, friends, or
anything else—you'll receive it to the extent that you put out,
through your actions, something of equivalent value. Be a good
friend, and you'll have friends. Act in a way that invites respect,
and you'll be respected. And so on.
The main point, though, is that for you to get something in this
world, you have to give. As Emerson said, the universe's books are
always balanced—which, by the way, also means that you can't fail to
receive when you give, and if you have to wait, you build up
interest, you might say, while you wait.
Now, some people struggle, at least partially, because they haven't
found a way to offer very much value, so they don't make much money.
If you're flipping burgers, it's probably because you don't have the
skills that make you more valuable to someone else, which means
others aren't willing to trade very much money for whatever you
provide. The burger-flipper needs to be reliable enough to show up,
smart enough to follow directions, and be able to get along with the
other employees, but not much else is required.
It's also possible that you have something that would be of value to
others, but you haven't found a way to let others know about it. In
that case, you have a sales and marketing problem, and you need to
find a way to convincingly let others know about the value you could
provide for them.
The more valuable you are, the more money you make
But there's a solution to this, and it isn't wishing and hoping. If
you don't have a way to create very much value for others, you can
always get more knowledge or more skills. I have people who work for
me who know how to take orders over the phone and enter them into
the computer, and they do it well. However, a lot of people can do
such a job, so it isn't a very lucrative job compared, for instance,
to someone who knows how to manage people, or who knows how to run a
computer network, or who knows how to create an advertisement that
creates a lot of sales. Such people end up getting more money
because they provide more value. And, they can provide more value
because they've paid the price to have those skills and that
knowledge.
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So if you aren't making as much money as you want, you need to
figure out a way to create more value, and you need to figure out a
way to make sure people know you have this value. The value could be
your ideas, it could be your labor, it could be a product you create
or sell, or it could be a service you provide. If it has value, and
if you can find a way to make sure people know about it, you'll make
money equivalent to the value you provide. And, of course, none of
this will happen unless you take action, and you won't take action—
or know what action to take—unless you begin by focusing your mind
on what you want and asking yourself how you can get it.
But please don't think that you can just wish for something or "put
it out to the universe," and then, without taking action or
providing any value, expect to get it. In fact, let me clue you into
another aspect of the Law of Attraction. If a random event brings
you something, for which you haven't provided value—something you
haven't paid the price to have—I hate to tell you this, but you
still have to pay in some way.
If you win the lottery, you've received a bunch of money without
having provided value in exchange. You know what happens to nearly
all people who win millions in the lottery, don't you? That's right.
They almost always lose all the money within a few years. Unless
that person does something with the money that provides value to
others, they'll find a way to lose it.
And, by the way, this is the way debt works, too. If you go into
debt in order to have something before you've earned the money, you
end up paying more for it. There is a price for everything, and when
you pay in advance the price is lower, and when you pay in arrears
the price is higher. One of the big secrets to success is to find
out what the price is for what you want and pay it, in full, as fast
as possible. The price might be money, but it also could be time,
experience, learning, work, or something else. Sometimes the price
is a series of events that look like failures, but are really
preparation for success. But whatever the price is, the faster you
pay it, the better. This is what the second two principles are about.
Who wants $100,000?
Okay, let's take an example to see how you could use these three
principles to get what you want. Let's say that you do want more
money, and you realize right away that you don't yet have a way to
provide additional value to others, which is what would qualify you
to receive more money. For that reason, no one is giving you money.
What do you do? The first thing to do is to use the first principle,
the principle of focusing your attention on what you want. "I want
more money," you say. You ask yourself, "How can I get more money?"
Notice that I'm using that "How can I?" question again. It's always
a great question to ask because it focuses you on what you want.
It would be even better, though, if you were more specific. I might
say, then, "I want to make $100,000 a year. How can I do that?" Or,
I might say to myself, "Okay, how can I make $100,000 a year? Many
other people do it, so I know it's doable. How could I do it?" I
would keep asking myself this question, and I would focus my
attention on discovering a way to do it. Knowing the other two
principles, I'd know that when I get an idea, I'm going to have to
take action, and the action will have to benefit someone, so I'm
keeping that in the back of my mind.
So, what happens? First, you start getting ideas. Right now, off the
top of my head, I'm just going to share with you the ideas that come
to me, as if I was the person wanting to make $100,000 a year. The
first idea that comes to me is to see if I can find out who else is
making $100,000 a year. What professions make that much? Well,
certainly a lot of people who have their own business make that
much. A guy who owns a McDonald's makes more than that much for each
store he owns. Someone who owns a couple of dry cleaning stores
probably makes that much. I could probably go online and find
through Google a whole list of types of jobs that make $100,000 a
year.
People who sell certain products online, or through the mail,
probably make that much. Certain professional speakers, or authors,
make that much. Someone who sells real estate can make that much, or
more, and so can insurance agents. So one idea that came to me was
to check out who's actually making this kind of money, because that
might give me ideas for how I could do it. By finding this out, I
could at least save myself from doing something that I think will
make me a lot of money when in actual fact few if any people
actually make that kind of money doing it.
For instance, I see a lot of people in certain MLM-type businesses,
but rarely do I see anyone who even makes $1000 a month, let alone
significant money. I'm not trying to bash MLMs in general, because
some of them are great, and I'm not saying it isn't possible to make
good money in MLM, but if you're looking for a way to make a lot of
money, wouldn't it make sense to avoid something where nearly
everyone who does it fails?
If you want to start a business, do a little checking before you act
and find out what other people in that business are making.
Daydreaming, or acting?
Here's something else to keep in mind. If you sit around and focus
your attention on something you want, but you're daydreaming, you
aren't going to get it. Why? Because daydreaming is a kind of
thinking that already has lack of action built into it. There's a
huge difference between thinking about something when you're in
wishing mode, and thinking about the same thing when you're in
acting mode. If you want to create something, always do your
thinking while in acting mode.
But let's get back to creating that $100,000 a year. I've already
mentioned that focusing on how to do this gives you ideas. But it
also causes you to notice resources you might use. You might, for
instance, notice books about how to make more money. Or you might
notice that someone has a seminar about how to make more money.
It occurs to me as I'm thinking about this right now that my friend
Harv Eker, for instance, has a great seminar, and a book, about
making money. If you Google "Harv Eker", you'll see all kinds of
offerings he has. I know they're good, and if you follow his advice
you'll learn how to make more money. Jack Canfield has some great
stuff, too, and his book, The Success Principles, is a very complete
guide to how people create what they want in the world. I have a
very powerful online course that will teach you, in-depth, exactly
how to create whatever you want, which I'll tell you more about
later.
There are almost unlimited resources available about how to make
money. You usually don't notice them because you haven't focused
your attention on finding them. Then, of course, when you find them,
you have to take action and use them. This is where most people fall
down. There's a price to pay to get what you want in this world, and
most people would rather not pay it.
Paying the price—and enjoying it
The people you see who are getting what they want in life are almost
always those who have figured out how to enjoy paying the price,
which of course makes it easy to pay. As I said earlier, this is the
essence of the Law of Attraction—the price is just whatever you need
to give in order to attract or create what you want. That's why just
sitting there hoping and wishing doesn't work. When you do that, the
only thing you're putting out is an intention, which, while it's a
good start, is of no value to anyone—unless you act on it.
The resources you begin to notice when you focus on what you want
might also include people who could help you. And when you begin to
spot such people, you have to keep in mind that if you want their
help you have to make it worth their while to help you. This might
mean paying them, but you could compensate them in many other ways.
You could make them a partner. You could give them a feeling of
being a good person who helps others. Or anything in between.
And, quite often, if people who have the ability to help you see
that what you have has real merit, some of them will help you just
to help you, because they understand the Law of Attraction and they
know if they help you it will come back to them in some other way.
Often the people who have really mastered the Law of Attraction have
so much, and they create what they want so effortlessly, that they
just want to give back by helping others.
It never hurts to ask
It never hurts to ask for help, even if you're not sure how to
compensate the other person. But always start with the willingness
to compensate them in some way, even if you don't yet know how. In
fact, if you aren't sure, you could begin by saying, "I'm not sure
how at this point to make it worth your while, but I sure could use
your help." Ask, and see what happens, and always be open to
compensating the other person in some way, even if you haven't yet
figured out what it might be. In fact, be eager to compensate them.
So, you focus on what you want, and you ask yourself questions such
as "How can I make $100,000 a year?" Because of that, you get ideas,
you notice resources, you attract or notice people who might be able
to help. Focusing on what you want and imagining how good it will
feel to get it causes you to feel motivated to act, and so you take
action. Then, after you act, notice what happened. Evaluate your
action. Your action was either successful or not, or something in
between. Whatever happens, you'll get feedback. If your action
worked, you might want to do more of it. If it didn't work, learn
whatever you can from it, and then take another action based on what
you learned. Keep acting, evaluating, and then acting again, until
you create or attract whatever it is you're trying to get.
Even if you have to refine your actions many times, you're still
benefiting because you're gaining wisdom. This is why successful
people are so successful. They've acted, and received feedback, and
acted again, and received more feedback, and have done this so many
times that they've become wise. They've become experts. So be
willing to pay the price to become an expert. All these little so-
called failures are really tuition in the school of life, and the
learning they bring is very valuable.
All the while you're doing this, of course, you're remaining focused
on where you want to go and what you want to create, and you've
already decided, in advance, that nothing is going to keep you from
getting there. If you slip up, if what you're doing isn't working,
if you fall on your face, you learn everything you can from what
happened, and continue to focus on how to get where you want to go.
This constant focus on the end result, along with taking action, and
always trying to think of how to create value for others, always,
eventually, gets you there. The only way you can fail is if you're
mistaken about the value of what you provide, or you quit before you
get there. You might change your approach for getting there a number
of times, based on what you learn, but you otherwise just keep
focusing your attention on what you want and acting to get it.
The Secret Shortcut
Now, would you like to know a huge shortcut to this process? I
thought so. It's easy. Find other people who are already
successfully doing what you want to do, or getting what you want to
get. Then, find out what they're doing, and copy them. Also, while
you're at it, find out how they're focusing their mind.
So far I've spoken about focusing your mind as if it was a pretty
simple "one-size-fits-all" thing to do, but there are actually a
number of important things to learn about how to focus your mind,
and I'll tell you a little bit more about that in a moment. For now,
just know that it's very beneficial to find out what the person
you're modeling believes about what they're doing, what they think
is important about it, how they decide what to pay attention to and
what to delete from their attention, and many other nuances about
how they focus their attention.
And, then, of course, you want to find out what actions they've
taken to create what you want to create. All of this you can copy,
which gives you a huge head start. Then, as you gain wisdom through
your own actions, you can add your own twist to what you learned
from them.
How do you find these people? First, just asking yourself that
question—"How do I find people who are successfully doing what I
want to do?" causes you to think of ways to find them. But just off
the top of my head, I can think of a few ways. Again, you can use
Google. You can find books they've written. Ask other people if they
know someone. You can look in the Yellow Pages. You can spot them in
the newspaper. Many people are selling information on doing many of
the typical things someone might want to know how to do, in the same
way Harv Eker is teaching people how to make money.
How to get what you don't want
Now, let's talk about the other side of the coin. What happens when
you focus on what you don't want? Actually, the process works the
same way, except you end up getting what you don't want instead of
what you do want. Whatever you focus on, you mind takes it as an
instruction to create or attract it. And, as I said earlier, your
mind is very good at creating or attracting whatever you focus on.
If you focus on not being poor, for instance, your mind will get
busy figuring out how you can be poor. If you focus on not being
anxious, you're mind will figure out how to make you feel anxious.
If you focus on not making a mistake, you'll make mistakes.
As if it wasn't bad enough that you create it, the other big penalty
for focusing on what you don't want is that you get to feel bad. All
bad feelings—anger, anxiety, fear, confusion, panic, depression,
annoyance, shame, guilt, hopelessness, or anything else—come from
focusing on what you don't want. This is the flip side of feeling
good when you focus on what you want, especially if you're taking
action, and that action has value.
When you focus on what you don't want, or what you're worried about,
or what you're afraid of, or what you want to avoid, you put your
mind to work creating it, and you feel bad. Both of these penalties
obviously make focusing on what you don't want a bad idea. In fact,
focusing on what you don't want is poison to your life.
But how does focusing on what you don't want affect the second
principle, taking action? When you focus on what you don't want, one
of two things happens. You might, as a result, not take any action,
which is a kind of action, with its own results (or lack of
results). If you're afraid of making a mistake, you might avoid
acting, and the very failure to act is, in and of itself, a type of
mistake. When you don't act, you always know what will happen.
Nothing.
Or, you might, ironically, take an action, driven by your fear, that
creates the very thing you don't want. Not wanting to make a
mistake, you act in a way that creates mistakes. Not wanting to make
a bad investment, you figure out a way to become attracted to bad or
risky investments, or you fail to learn what you need to know to
make an good decision. Not wanting your business to fail, you are
led to take the very actions that do make it fail.
I see this all the time among my students. They focus on avoiding
something they're afraid of or worried about, and (almost) as if by
magic, they create it. The mind is ingenious in creating what you
focus on, and it doesn't care whether it's what you want or what you
don't want.
For this reason, it's crucial that you focus your mind consciously
and intentionally. Your mind is always focusing on something. As I
said earlier, it isn't that you can't manifest what you focus on,
it's that you're very likely choosing what to focus on
automatically, unconsciously. What you focus on is very often driven
by past events, childhood decisions and traumas, that cause you to
focus on what you don't want at least some of the time.
Attracting danger
Here's how it works. When you are traumatized during childhood (and
the trauma can be quite unintentional), you develop a belief that
the world is a dangerous place, or at least a potentially dangerous
place. In order to avoid this danger, you have to watch out for it.
To do that you have to focus your attention on it, and there you
are, giving your mind an instruction to create or attract the very
thing you don't want.
So The Secret is a wonderful thing. It works—especially if you add
the second and third principles I've shared with you. But it's like
electricity. You can light up a city with it, or electrocute
yourself. You can only use The Secret to get what you want to the
extent that you can consciously and intentionally direct your
attention. As long what you focus on is chosen without conscious
intention, you're going to find yourself attracting and creating, at
least some of the time, some things you don't want.
And some people are unfortunately attracting a lot of what they
don't want, a lot of the time.
But it doesn't have to be this way. You can develop the awareness
and the ability to use it to intentionally direct your focus. You
can turn off the autopilot. This is why Holosync is so powerful,
because it increases your ability to be aware, to live consciously
rather than automatically. As your awareness grows, you clearly see
how your focus creates what happens in your life, and as you watch
this happen it becomes more and more difficult to focus on what you
don't want, and much easier to focus on what you do want.
It's not an accident that so few people are truly successful.
Success, in whatever way you define it, flows directly from focusing
on what you want, and then, as a result, taking action that is of
value to the world. If you can't focus intentionally, though, this
process becomes very difficult.
You can't focus on what you've deleted
It also becomes easier to implement The Secret in your life if you
better understand the focusing process. In this discussion I've
treated focusing as a simple process, but it's actually a complex
cognitive process. There are many steps, and they whiz by very
quickly, mostly outside your awareness. For instance, you have
dozens of mental filters that delete much of what comes in through
your senses, then distorts (sometimes in a positive way, and
sometimes in a negative way) what is left.
Why does this matter? Well, you can't focus on what has been deleted
from your awareness. What if, for instance, you delete some—or even
all—of the possibilities? Many people do this. When they look
around, there are no possibilities! I correspond with people
everyday who tell me that they see no possibilities, yet the same
possibilities are actually available to them, as to anyone else. But
because they've filtered them out, they aren't there.
And this is just one of twenty-some filters people unconsciously use
before they ever get to the part of the process where they focus on
something.
People filter out possibilities, solutions, ideas, resources, ideas,
kindnesses, love, what they could be grateful for, and all kinds of
things. Many people filter things in such a way that all they see
are problems and what is wrong. They have nothing left to focus on
but what they don't want! Can you see how it would be valuable if
you could consciously choose how to use these filters?
We unfortunately don't have room here to go through the entire
process by which you focus your mind. However, even if you know
nothing about this, other than to focus as much as possible on what
you want—and you're willing to take action and to do whatever you
can to make sure your actions are of value to others—you'll get
results that are head and shoulders above those achieved by other
people.
However, I invite you to consider the possibility that you could
master this internal focusing process, by taking my online course,
The Internal Map of Reality Expander. Those who master this process
tap into a power that allows them to do or achieve anything they put
their mind to. There's no reason why you couldn't be one of them.
You can find out more, and listen to a free preview lesson, by going
to www.centerpointe.com/life/preview.
I also invite you, if you aren't already doing so, to use Holosync
audio technology to increase your conscious awareness (and to get
all the other mental, emotional, and spiritual benefits it brings).
You can get a free Holosync demo CD and a free Special Report at
www.centerpointe.com.
The Secret isn't a secret, and the Wish Fairy is a fraud
The Secret really isn't a secret. It's been around for thousands of
years, and many people have taught it in many different forms. The
only reason it can be referred to as a "secret" is that very few
people actually use it. It's been estimated that about 2% of people
actually embrace the three principles I've described and commit
themselves to using them consistently. Or, if they try to use the
first principle, they skip the second two and insist on wishing and
hoping and believing in magic, eternally waiting for the Wish Fairy
to give them what they want.
I'm hoping that you'll be one of those who embrace these principles
and actually use them. And I am here, along with my staff, to help
you use the tools we've created to become happy, peaceful, and
successful, and to create whatever you want in life.
Be well.
Bill
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